tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post7620156482620755764..comments2024-01-10T19:50:30.163+00:00Comments on children are people: My child hits other people's childrenemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15105753491792762911noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post-47393338735735054902011-08-02T19:26:30.736+00:002011-08-02T19:26:30.736+00:00my child is 3.5 she hits or scratches others when...my child is 3.5 she hits or scratches others when angry. has for over a year now. I am ready for her to decide herself not to do that anymore. :) I suggest hitting pillows, soft animals, walking away - even yelling! anything better than hurting other people. she gets no warnings at the playground anymore and we leave right away. she goes calmly and doesn't protest but a little. she still hits often at pre-school too. This phase is not passing fast enough for me or her peers. we certainly don't hurt other ourselves, she just really hasn't learned to communicate properly yet... right? at home if she hits now we turn off the tv if she is watching (she loves "shows") or she knows she can't watch it later if she hurts someone at home. I am NOT a fan of these made up consequences but I don't know what else to do. it will even happen on a day where I "think" we are very connected. I am just now learning nvc as well. any ideas, questions or suggestions are very welcome! thank you for reading!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11388196357935932552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post-32336120158408472492007-05-27T18:34:00.000+00:002007-05-27T18:34:00.000+00:00Oh Claire - nail on the head. It's there everywher...Oh Claire - nail on the head. It's there everywhere. Most recently, I heard "I tell him that if he hits me again, I'll put him on the naughty step, and he always hits me straight away"...emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15105753491792762911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post-73134385562543199502007-05-25T16:13:00.000+00:002007-05-25T16:13:00.000+00:00Often I see children hit as an (unrelated seemingl...Often I see children hit as an (unrelated seemingly?) reaction to a dominant parent's contolling behaviour. Usually control of a 'minor' thing such as getting the child to sit and eat when they are not interested, telling them not to do something just *because*. Parent mystified as to why child is hitting as their own behaviour they utterly justify and do not question.<BR/><BR/>Any one else seen thisClairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11124287526583985777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post-72080834351887755522007-05-24T14:52:00.000+00:002007-05-24T14:52:00.000+00:00children are never too young to understand how the...children are never too young to understand how their actions make other people feel. talk to them about how that other child must have felt when they hit them. Ask them how they would feel if the roles were reversed. telling them not to do it won't solve the problem, they have to understand why it's wrong and decide for themselves not to do it.Friendstacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14627520987199375398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701157.post-12556719902755727502007-05-24T08:09:00.000+00:002007-05-24T08:09:00.000+00:00In my opinion, it's also important not to punish c...In my opinion, it's also important not to punish children when they do hit, but just to stop them doing it (physically if necessary, but gently ie. holding their arm in order to protect the person being hit!) and to explain that what they're doing is unacceptable and to help them try to resolve their issue with words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com